My wife and I had got to the stage where we knew something HAD to be done about our weight. So we confided in each other about exactly what we wanted and why. Our little tete-a-tete revealed a rather basic wish-list. As far as my wife was concerned, she wanted more get-up-and-go when the kids wanted to do things. Also, she wanted to feel more confident revealing herself to me.
Most of all I hoped to dress well again. I had become completely fed up with ‘fat boy’ clothes! And for health reasons I wanted to be able to run up the stairs at home and not feel sick!
We did our research, and found that as well as considering how we look, we also have to consider how we feel about ourselves. Those of us who are obese tend to have a very low self-image. It’s a popular assumption that reducing weight will make everything in life good again. Katie and I can really relate to this, and thought you might appreciate our take on things.
Over time scientists have discovered that our sub conscious mind stores information, but can’t decipher whether that information is actually ‘real’. It therefore ‘programs’ the conscious element of our brain with anything that occupies it. Process that thought repeatedly, it emerges as its prevailing concept and thus it’s actual truth.
Take a little time to ponder on that one… For years we’ve probably been programming our mind about how over weight we are. So instead of telling our subconscious what we don’t want, we should tell it what we DO want.
It’s also important to think about all the great things being slimmer will mean. First off we wrote down the things we could start to enjoy when the excess weight had gone. We came up with – Going for walks in the country, flirting, great sex, going for a swim without embarrassment, playing with the kids, fun on the beach, dancing, cycling and greater happiness.
We imagined going on vacation, wearing shorts and tee-shirts and looking great. We got the respect and esteem of people as we confidently mingled with others. We brought the dream to life.
Accordingly, both of us are a lot lighter and fitter – though not as thin as rakes! By the same token, we’re feeling terrific and life really has become fun!
(C) Scott Edwards. Pop over to WeightLossDietWar.com for smart advice on slimming beauty and health weight management.
