Some folks appear to have it all – and everything they do seems to fall easily into place. Whereas there are also those who live at the other end of the spectrum, and make a mess of everything they do. So we have the victorious and the victimised – and they can generally be differentiated by their attitudes.
When you want to reduce your size, it’s vital to learn the habits of a victor to achieve your goal. The victims pursue their actions timidly – wanting great things, but never really believing they’re worthy of them. A ‘victor’ will be one hundred percent committed to the goal mentally. They’ll get emotionally involved with the outcome.
Let’s envision we’re on court for a tennis finale. We listen to the players before the start – One player says the outcome is now in the lap of the gods, whereas his opponent states “I am destined to be the champion!” Guess who’ll win the tournament?
If we split up the word OAR we have the definition of a victor – someone who takes Ownership of his/her task, is Accountable for their actions and assumes Responsibility for getting it done. The victim can be defined by the term BED – one who stays in bed and gives up. BED = Blame, Excuses and Denial.
Taking ownership of an assignment is the hallmark of a victor. A victor likes to be accountable for everything he does – a problem solver not a problem maker. He doesn’t take excuses from himself and is responsible for the outcome of his activities.
The victim always has a reason for not achieving, and it’s rarely to do with him or herself. Everything is always someone else’s fault – he feels out of control so lays the blame elsewhere. And then he reasons why something didn’t go well – although no-one’s convinced but him! After repeating this cycle of excuses and blame for a while, the victim is in denial. He’s absolutely convinced that there isn’t anything he can do to change things.
Slimmers about to embark on a life-changing fat loss regime should give themselves a mental work-out, to prepare for success. Anyone who’s a fully paid up member of the victim society will have to address their issues before they start, to truly embrace the concept of losing weight.
Both sets of attitudes are just habits, and with constant repetition, habits can be changed. When you’re alone with your thoughts, are you thinking like a victim? If the answer is yes, then take control right away. Achievers are just like the rest of us – except they’ve conquered their demons and taken control.
People aren’t born with winning attitudes; they work on them throughout their lives. In order to maintain successful weight management, we first have to maintain a successful attitude.
