In life, there’s a sector of the population for whom everything seems very simple, and achievement is a ‘given’. Conversely, others struggle with everything they do, and can always give you a reason why life is so difficult. So we have the victorious and the victimised – and they can generally be differentiated by their attitudes.
When trying to lose weight, it’s essential to learn the habits of the victor to achieve a successful outcome. Feebly attempting a weight-loss plan without taking responsibility for the outcome will put you in the ‘victim’ camp. A ‘victor’ will be one hundred percent committed to the goal mentally. They’ll get emotionally involved with the outcome.
Let’s envision we’re on court for a tennis finale. We listen to the players before the start – One player says the outcome is now in the lap of the gods, whereas his opponent states “I am destined to be the champion!” No prizes for guessing who will conquer his opponent!
The victor can be defined by the term OAR – as it describes someone paddling towards success. OAR = Ownership, Accountability and Responsibility. The victim can be defined by the term BED – one who stays in bed and gives up. BED = Blame, Excuses and Denial.
The victor takes ownership of his or her tasks, not expecting someone else to lead the way. He takes account of his actions by taking them seriously. He sees things through by tackling problems instead of creating them. He’s responsible for the results of his actions, and so doesn’t take excuses from himself.
On the other hand the victim will always have an explanation for his lack of achievement. Slip-ups and blunders are never down to him; he assumes no control and so no responsibility. So he can always find an excuse for his lack of accomplishment. With this continual pattern of blame and excuses, the victim lives a life of complete denial, certain that he’s completely unable to do anything about where he is in life.
Slimmers about to embark on a life-changing fat loss regime should give themselves a mental work-out, to prepare for success. Thinking like a victim will simply block all chances of success.
Good or bad – attitudes are formed by repeated thoughts or experiences. Continuously repeating the right messages will result in the victor mentality. Listen to the voice inside your head – if it sounds like a victim, then stop it and verbalise why you can succeed. No one is any better than you – some have just fought their downturns and emerged victorious.
“There is no such thing as a hero,” as Churchill said, “only those who rise to the occasion.” To achieve the weight and health we want, we must adopt the right frame of mind. Then we become capable of anything!
